Sunday, July 30, 2017

The Company We Keep

@ Hugh Caracter Group
Like it or not, the company we keep says a lot about us. One of the most perplexing things for us to wrap our minds around is how much our associations affect the way we think, act, and believe. Some people become so loyal to whom they associate that they willfully sacrifice their own ambitions for the sake of friendships. This is one of the primary reasons it is so important to ally yourself with people who will empower you in the pursuit of your goals, aspirations, and ideal lifestyle.


"Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see greatness in you, even when you don't see it yourself." Unknown

Time for a dose of tough talk so here goes...

If your friends are holding you back then it's time to get some new friends. Your associations are a critical aspect of your achievement and lifestyle objectives. If your desire is to be successful you must associate with successful people. There is simply no way around this principle. 


Take a moment to think about the five people you most associate with. Are these people the kind that inspire you, challenge you to be better, and add real value to your life? If so, great. Hang onto them. If not, it’s time for a change. 

Here’s another dose of tough talk…

Your relationships define you. If you doubt this, consider the following example. While many of us have a desire to lose weight or get into better shape, we seem to find a lot of frustration with our own “lack of progress”. If you can relate to that, consider the influence of the people you most closely associate with when it comes to just this one aspect of what defines you. Are your friends health-conscious or fitness-minded? Do they value their own health and fitness? Do they have healthy habits? How do they respond when you express your desire to get into better shape? Are they supportive? Or do they tell you that you’re just fine the way you are? Pay close attention to the way you feel when you’re around these people. If you can walk away inspired, you’re among the right friends. If you walk away drained and discouraged, consider making a change. 

There are so many examples that can be offered when it comes to the power and influence of relationships. If your desire is to live a life of financial freedom, take a good look around at your associations and you’ll quickly realize whether you’ll ever achieve that goal by the friendships you keep. Are your friends thrift-conscious, investment-minded, and high-achievers? Do they inspire you, mentor you, or encourage you? If not, you better do something about that if you ever expect to find your way to prosperity and financial independence. 

Your choice of friends may not seem to make much of a difference to you right now, but you can bet your bottom dollar it is the one clear difference-maker that will keep you stuck where you are or catapult you to new heights. So, stop spending time with people who don’t foster the mindset of who you aspire to become and go out and create new empowering friendships. It’s easier than you may think. 

Cut the ties
Changing your friendships and associations may seem overwhelming at first, but with a simple mindset and behavioral shift, you can easily make this happen. Besides, you don’t have to totally eliminate your current friends from your life. Chances are, they will drift further away as you continue to grow and make progress toward achieving your dreams, goals, and aspirations. The primary reason for this is that you will no longer be “like” them.

P.S. Don’t be so concerned about the feelings of your friends that you compromise who you aspire to become. Trust me, your friends will be just fine. 


 “Tell me who your best friends are and I will tell you who you are.” ~ G. Westfal


The longer you associate with someone, the more susceptible you are to their energy. We can all discern this energy. Think about a time when you met someone you were really drawn to. Now think about someone else who you met that affected you in a completely opposite way. Chances are, you did everything you could to shorten the visit or find the nearest exit. We are more sensitive to this energy than we give ourselves credit for. Quite often, we can discern this energy within the first seven seconds and without a word ever being spoken. It is this energy that most influences us. How we choose to respond to that influence is a difference-maker in our quest for personal growth and goal attainment. Choose wisely.

One final tip…it’s free, so give it a try. Besides, you’ll know if this applies to you or not so we won’t belabor the point.

Police your social media presence.
Friends might mean no harm in joking around, making inappropriate comments, or tagging you in photos, but if those photos don’t go along with who you are or the image you intend to project, then harm can come around and bite you when other people (potential clients or employers) see the photos and tags and begin drawing conclusions. There’s no such thing as monitoring your presence too closely. As I’ve said many times before, privacy is a thing of the past. Get over it and get on with it. The upside: the more you self-police your associations and social interactions the more control you have on the outcome of the levels you arise to. Align yourself with respected, supportive, and influential friends and watch your personal transformation begin immediately!

Until next time...

~ G ~

“Bad company ruins good morals." ~ 1 Corinthians 15:33


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Stay tuned for news on the release of ... 

333
The Power of Equilibrium


Coming this fall!

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Check out the wise, knowledgeable, and often entertaining perspectives of Author Elisabeth Auld inside the editions of

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Get your copy of Gary's first novel Dream Operative, a #1 Amazon.com Best-Seller! NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com!


FEAR Is a Thief is on Amazon.com and NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com too! This inspiring book is the first in a self-empowerment series that was written to help people get past fear using five fundamental truths as a basis for understanding and taking action for a better life. Get your copy today at: FEAR Is a Thief/Amazon.


Also be sure to check out: KEY HORIZON, the second novel in the G. Weston spy series. This thriller is receiving rave reviews across the spectrum and has captivated a new following of "spy-fi" readers. 




Order your copy of these exciting novels today at Amazon.com.

Friday, June 30, 2017

Whatever it Takes

Are you really in control of your life? The fact is, only about three or four people in one-hundred are considered to be in control. Want to know how they do it? Want to be among them?

You can change anything you want about your life, and you can do it in an instant. All you have to do is understand how to do what you already know. 



If you think about it, most of your days are actually quite similar. You wake up, eat the same familiar food, go to the same familiar place of work, associate with the same familiar people, think the same familiar thoughts, and follow the same familiar rituals...day in and day out. So if you expect things to change you’ve got to find a way to break away from the things that keep you from making that change. 


"You can never change things by fighting your existing reality. To change something you must build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete." 
 Buckminster Fuller


It's Time for a Change
If what you're doing is not producing the effects on your life you truly desire, then it's time for you to change it. If you really want something different you must do whatever it takes to obtain it, to achieve it, and to own it. 


"If you want something different you must do something different." ~ G. Westfal


Take an honest look at the results you're getting in life. Chances are, there are some areas you'd like to improve. It's good to assess your results and to ask yourself some serious questions about where you are versus where you'd like to be. 


Here are the basics: To go someplace new you have to know where you are, where you're going, and what you're willing to do about getting there. 

If you don't know exactly what you want or where you want to go, you're not going to achieve much (at best), and you're likely to get lost in the misery of the status quo as you continue to sit around wondering why your life isn't moving forward like everyone else's. Hello? Are you still listening? Great! Then get off the couch and let’s move!

The only way you’re going to escape the life you have to the life you want is to be totally honest about where you are and to acknowledge that you created it. 

Take a good look at where you are. That’s your starting point, so whether you like it or not, you own it, you created it, and you are the only one who can change it. The good news is that you can change it if…you’re willing to do whatever it takes.

Accepting full responsibility sets you up for the last, and in my humble opinion, the most exciting part where you get to decide what you’re going to actually do about changing things.

Clarity is Power 

You must define WHAT you want your life to advance toward and WHY you want it. The HOW will obediently follow and take its place inside the formula you create as you build your new life model and replace the old, worn-out, obsolete version. 

What do you want? Answer that question in your mind right now. Be honest and be specific. Become so strongly aligned with it that it affects your body, your mind, your relationships, and your life. Until you are able to answer that question with conviction then you're not going to be as fulfilled as you hope to be. 

Most everyone knows how to do a better job. That's not the problem. The problem is we're not doing what we know how to do. We get distracted easily, put things off for a "better time", make excuses, and subjugate our dreams to other "higher priorities", all the time wondering why other people are so fortunate, successful, or "lucky".  

Clarity is power. The clearer you are about exactly what you want the more your brain will know exactly how you're going to get there. When you condition your mind, it knows exactly what to do and it'll find a way to get there. Your sole responsibility at that point is to follow its leading with action

Life will bring you exactly what you ask of it, so expect what it is you're asking for. Become so familiar with it that you immediately recognize it when you see it. Then...act on it!

As Simple as a Decision

Assuming you keep up your present habits and rituals and keep up the present pace you're on, where will you be in 3 to 5 years? Admittedly, there are some people who have difficulty wrapping their mind around the whole 3- to 5-year concept. But what if I told you there is a way that you could see immediate change? Would that grab your attention? Well, it's not as far-fetched as it may seem. 

You can experience immediate and significant changes in your life with something as simple as a decision. A decision changes the mind by arming it with a determined discipline that can take you to the forefront of an entirely new life experience. 

A decision brings about disciplines in you that compound on each other as you form new habits and rituals that will take you to your goals. As this change takes hold of your inner self you’ll know it in an instant. This kind of change is transformative.  


Make a decision today to BE THE CHANGE you need in your life. Do whatever it takes. After all, it's your life. 

Until next time...

~ G ~


“One day your entire life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it's worth watching." ~ Gerard Way


Stay tuned for news on the release of ... 

333
The Power of Equilibrium


Coming this fall!

***********


Check out the wise, knowledgeable, and often entertaining perspectives of Author Elisabeth Auld inside the editions of

-------------------------------------------------------------



Get your copy of Gary's first novel Dream Operative, a #1 Amazon.com Best-Seller! NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com!


FEAR Is a Thief is on Amazon.com and NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com too! This inspiring book is the first in a self-empowerment series that was written to help people get past fear using five fundamental truths as a basis for understanding and taking action for a better life. Get your copy today at: FEAR Is a Thief/Amazon.


Also be sure to check out: KEY HORIZON, the second novel in the G. Weston spy series. This thriller is receiving rave reviews across the spectrum and has captivated a new following of "spy-fi" readers. 



Order your copy of these exciting novels today at Amazon.com.

Thursday, June 1, 2017

It All Comes Down to You

Everything you hope to accomplish in life lies in wait for you to act. You are solely responsible for the construct and content of your life. Every choice you make—from the use of your time to the selection of your mate—makes a difference. So, if you’ve been blaming everything and everyone for your “circumstances,” that stops right here, right now.  

If you are not happy with your life, the only one who can change things is you. Change is one of the most difficult things for people to accept because change introduces a new unknown into our life. Most people are uncomfortable with the unknown because they are afraid of what it will ask of them. 

Unfortunately, most people view change as a threat or as something that will require some kind of sacrifice or payment. The fact is, they’re right. Change will require something from you, but it will always give you something in return. This simple but powerful truth is based on the Law of Reciprocity, which tells us that if we give something of ourselves we will receive, often in overwhelming abundance, something in return.


“Growth is uncomfortable. Change is uncomfortable. But nothing is as uncomfortable as choosing to remain stuck where you are." 
~ G. Westfal


I get it, life can sometimes absolutely suck. Been there, done that…far more than I care to admit. But even the worst of circumstance is lined with opportunity. It’s there if you look hard enough. Oh, and keep in mind that there is always someone else who is worse off than you. So, as my military warrior friends would often say, “Embrace the Suck”. In other words, look for the good in an otherwise less-than-desirable situation and you will always find it. More often than not, when you look back upon a difficult time you will see the lessons with clarity.

You will always get what you settle for. Attitude is everything when it comes to creating the kind of life you desire. No matter what happens to you or around you, you have a choice. You can choose to feel sorry for yourself, project discontent, cast blame, and settle for mediocrity or…you can decide, right here and now that you are the master of your life. Does this mean you’ll never go through anything difficult or uncomfortable? No, but your attitude is the difference-maker in the perspective you cultivate in life. The formula is simple: what you project is what you get. So, instead of accepting the circumstances life throws at you, choose instead to poke your finger into the eye of circumstance and declare “enough!” by projecting a winning attitude. 


If you are ready to wake up and take responsibility for your own life, then declare today as that day you will begin to reprogram the thoughts, beliefs, and actions that will set you on a new course. Here are a few simple habits that will empower you to change your perspective and begin projecting the right attitude to create the kind of life you truly deserve and desire. 

Be Grateful.

Most people give so much power to their misery they overlook the magnificence of what is right in front of them at any given moment. Be thankful for what you already have and watch the miracles unfold before you. Be grateful for the people in your life, the fact that you have shelter, the sights, sounds, and scents you get to experience. Something happens when you pause long enough to appreciate the things that are right in front of you. Colors become more vivid, details become more prevalent, and love grows as you become more attuned to the subtle nuances of life. There is nothing more tragic than wishing you had said or done something well after the opportunity has come and gone. Turn off the damn TV and appreciate what the silence has to offer. You may, in fact, hear the sounds of love that have been trying to make their way to you through the voice of your child or significant other. You most certainly will realize the shit you've been watching on TV is sucking the life out of what you hope and aspire to become.

Dream.
Every great achievement, advancement, or contribution began in the mind of one person. They dared to dream, to believe that their dream was possible. Take some time to yourself to contemplate the power of your innermost self. Use your creative imagination to remove the limits of the natural world. Wake up to the possibilities that are waiting specifically for you to experience. Your greatest breakthrough lies in wait for you to unlock. Take stock of your unique abilities and pursue that which you have been called to do. Do not leave this world without letting it know the gift of you.


“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” ~ Albert Einstein


Change your mindset.
Be rich minded. Rich-minded people don’t focus solely on money but on the richness of life. This mindset adds to the quality of life they get to experience. 

Far too many people think there is not enough to go around in the world. Theirs is a fear-based mindset. Their answers are based on insufficiency and lack—things they cannot see…things they fear. A poor person’s mindset selects security above love, safety before self-expression, and protection over possibility.

Rich-minded people understand that, with a little creativity, a willingness to be unconventional, and an open mind, they can indeed experience an abundant life. When you build your life with the right mindset, you will see opportunities most others simply cannot see. This is the fundamental difference between those who do and those who don’t. 

Be intentional.
You’re creating the reality of your life at this very moment. But chances are you’re not being very intentional about the reality you’re creating. Reality is subjective. That is, it is highly personal. Once you realize the power behind that statement you will quickly realize the power you truly have to shape your life through the reality you create. Once you realize that you are indeed choosing whether or not to believe something, then you can choose to believe that you can do something about it.

Grow.
Challenge yourself to grow. Produce more ideas than you need for yourself so you can share your wisdom and insight with others. Produce more results than you need for yourself so you can begin blessing others, blessing your community, and enriching your life. Personal growth is a lifelong process. We all aspire to grow, even until our dying day. Because, even on our dying day, we hope to grow into the transition of hope.  

A simple exercise…
Knowing it all comes down to you compels YOU to do something. So, don't just read this article and move on. Write down the beliefs you have about yourself. On one side, list the things that empower you and move you forward, the things that make you more confident, that give you the courage to move forward. On the other side, list the things that hold you back or move you away from your goals. Chances are, you will begin to see with clarity the power you truly have and you will be compelled to do something about it. After all, it all comes down to…you. 

Until next time...

~ G ~



“At the center of your being, you have the answer. You know who you are and you know what you want." ~ Lao Tzu


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Introspection is proud to announce its affiliation with writer ~ Elisabeth Auld ~

Check out her wise, knowledgeable, and often entertaining perspectives inside the editions of
 Gals in Blue.

-------------------------------------------------------------



Get your copy of Gary's first novel Dream Operative, a #1 Amazon.com Best-Seller! NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com!


FEAR Is a Thief is on Amazon.com and NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com too! This inspiring book is the first in a self-empowerment series that was written to help people get past fear using five fundamental truths as a basis for understanding and taking action for a better life. Get your copy today at: FEAR Is a Thief/Amazon.

Also be sure to check out: KEY HORIZON, the second novel in the G. Weston spy series. This thriller is receiving rave reviews across the spectrum and has captivated a new following of "spy-fi" readers. 

Order your copy of these exciting novels today at Amazon.com.

Saturday, April 29, 2017

How to Change Your Circumstances…Once and For All!

One of the most significant steps you can take toward achieving your greatest potential and to literally change the conditions of your life is to learn to monitor your outlook and its impact on your personal performance, relationships, and everyone around you. To be clear, your outlook is largely responsible for the way you see life and is driven, in large part, by the attitudes you develop along the way. Far too many people fail to recognize the critical role that attitude plays in the construct and quality of their life experiences. 


“We are not defined by our circumstances, but rather by the choices we make despite our circumstances.” ~ G. Westfal


I typically begin most of my speaking presentations and coaching encounters by asking a fundamental question: 

What attitude did you bring in to this meeting? 

Quite often, this question comes as a surprise to most people. In truth, people generally don’t have a high level of awareness when it comes to their attitude. It’s something they have become so accustom to that they have unknowingly adopted their “default attitude” as part of who they are. They’ll know if they're hungry or if they’re uncomfortable, but they usually don’t have a good grasp on the state of their attitude or the manner in which it affects virtually every area of their life. 

Attitude is Everything

Attitude governs the way you perceive the world and, perhaps even more profound, the way the world perceives you. So, if attitude is so important, how do we manage it? 

The good news is that we can manage it through the one power no one can ever take from us—the power of choice. We can either choose an inner dialogue of self-encouragement, determination, and self-motivation or we can choose one of defeat and self-pity. Choice is a power we all possess. 

Admittedly, we all experience difficult times, disappointments, rejection, heartache, and physical and emotional pain. The key is to realize it’s not what happens to you; it’s how you choose to respond to what happens that matters most.

We are blessed with an amazing mind that can be programmed to accomplish nearly anything we desire in life, to include the outlook or attitude we possess. Don’t care for the hand you’ve been dealt? Take action to re-configure the default outlook you currently have on life. Your efforts to reprogram will have a profound, life-altering effect on the way you see things. Following this course offers far more assurances than the alternative. 

Our inner dialogue is largely responsible for shaping our attitude, which, in turn, determines how we present ourselves to the world. Despite some opinions to the contrary, we have control over the narrative of that dialogue. That’s not to insinuate that changing or managing it will be easy. In fact, you may find it to be quite difficult at first. The question you must ask yourself however, is whether or not it will be worth it. 

Whatever we program our minds with can and will be a reflection of what we see and experience as a result. CAUTION: This is a two-edged sword that works both ways. So be mindful to feed your mind with the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors you intend to experience in life. 




“We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are.” ~ Anias Nin



Many of us have behavior patterns and beliefs today that were programmed into our brain during very delicate and vulnerable times of our lives. The information that was recorded and stored by our mind could have been completely accurate or inaccurate, traumatic or outright cruel. The sad reality of life is that we will continue to be exposed to things that are not conducive to a positive outlook, but we don’t have to allow that narrative to become part of who we are.

Awareness is Essential


The loudest and most influential voice you hear is your own inner voice. This inner voice is at the core of who you have decided to become. Yes, make no mistake, who you are is formed by the choices you have made over the years through the filter of your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. Each of these elements have been shaped by the things you have been exposed to as well the reactions and opinions you have formed over the years. 

Every circumstance—good, not-so-good, or outright miserable is an opportunity for you to accept or reject as a part of who you will become. Your awareness on how this part of you is shaped is critical to understanding how to change the manner in which you view the world. Change the way you view the world and your world view changes.

Your inner voice can work for or against you, depending on the messages you have allowed or accepted over the years. It can be optimistic or pessimistic, constructive or destructive, apathetic or determined. It can exhaust you or invigorate you. Once you realize you have a choice, your life will change according to the very choices you make, but only if you consciously take responsibility for your inner conversation.

Pessimistic attitudes are often the product of painful past experiences, continual defeat, disappointment, and frustration. It takes serious work to examine and overcome the roots of a pessimistic attitude, but the rewards of ridding ourselves of this heavy burden can reinvigorate the soul and change so many aspects of life.

10 things you can do—right now—to shift your attitude, effectively changing everything, once and for all.

1. Create a Strong Vision

The psychology of peak performance has revealed that most achievers use visualizations to crystallize their goals and objectives to enhance and focus their skills. It has been said that if the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. Nowhere else does this statement come to life more than in creating a burning desire to reach your goal through the creation of a crystal clear vision. Your vision should contain enough vivid detail that it is difficult for the subconscious mind to distinguish what is from what is yet to be.

2. Be Determined

While a crystal clear vision helps us to act on our goals, action itself must be sustained in order for us to create the momentum it takes to reach our goals and objectives.

Determination is the ingredient that is required as we encounter inevitable obstacles along the way. Every step we take toward our goal reinvigorates the drive and determination we develop. Progress fuels consistency and determination which, in turn, fuels results. Results make us happy and reinforce a positive attitude. A positive attitude is a game-changer in the reflection of an outlook that effects what we experience in life.

3. Master the Power of Your Words

Words, once spoken, cannot be unspoken. Therefore, it is wise to be mindful of our words. The words we speak reflect the condition of our hearts and are based upon all the things we have come to believe about ourselves. Speaking judgmentally or disparagingly about our circumstances or those around us serve as an indicator that the condition of our heart is in need of change. 

You can create a direct path to success by what you say and how you say it. Positive self-talk and optimistic declarations are just a couple of ways to override past negative programming. These powerful habits replace old, worn-out narratives with a fresh, conscious, positive message that helps to create new and exciting life experiences. So take a closer look at what you are saying to yourself and the messages you have begun to accept as “ordinary” and know that you were never supposed to live an ordinary life. Indeed an extraordinary life awaits.

4. Display Enthusiasm

Enthusiasm is to attitude what breathing is to life. Genuine enthusiasm is difficult to contain. Enthusiasm enables you to apply your gifts more effectively and to attract goodness into your life. It is the genuine desire that communicates commitment, determination, and happiness. Enthusiasm evokes emotion, which is perpetuated by motion. It is driven by an internal spirit that speaks through your actions and your belief in what you are doing. Enthusiasm is one of the most empowering, attractive, and contagious characteristics you can have. Share it openly and often.

5. Ask

I quite often proudly proclaim that we can have, be, do, or become anything we want in life with one simple, powerful word…Ask. Next time you find yourself at odds with seemingly elusive questions or overwhelming frustration…just ask. Ask for insight, awareness, guidance, answers...

Unsure of what motivates you? Ask why, who, what, where, when, how. What motivates you to take action? Why do you want change your life? Questions—even those posed to our inner-self—invite contemplation and put into motion the answers that will inevitably find their way to us.

Until next time...

~ G ~


“Stop holding yourself back. If you aren't happy, make a change." ~ G. Westfal 


***********


Introspection is proud to announce its affiliation with writer ~ Elisabeth Auld ~

Check out her wise, knowledgeable, and often entertaining perspectives inside the edition of
 Gals in Blue.

-------------------------------------------------------------



Get your copy of Gary's first novel Dream Operative, a #1 Amazon.com Best-Seller! NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com!


FEAR Is a Thief is on Amazon.com and NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com too! This inspiring book is the first in a self-empowerment series that was written to help people get past fear using five fundamental truths as a basis for understanding and taking action for a better life. Get your copy today at: FEAR Is a Thief/Amazon.

Also be sure to check out: KEY HORIZON, the second novel in the G. Weston spy series. This thriller is receiving rave reviews across the spectrum and has captivated a new following of "spy-fi" readers. 

Order your copy of these exciting novels today at Amazon.com.