Friday, June 1, 2018

If You Want to Speed Up...You've Got to Slow Down

The purpose of this article is to get you to slow down long enough so you can speed up and accomplish the things you desire in life. One of the very best ways to do that is to discover what you don’t already know so you can make smart choices that allow you to surge ahead while everyone else is trying to figure out what you know that they don't. 

Want to learn how to totally rehab your own kitchen? Want to become a wedding photographer? Are you searching for your life’s purpose? Then you need both sources and resources. The best way to discover both is by slowing down long enough to fill your heart and mind with the elements of change.


“If you want to go fast…sometimes, you’ve got to slow down.”
~ G. Westfal


A source is a place or person you can turn to from which you can obtain something useful or valuable. One of the very best sources we have today is the Internet. It is ripe with information we can use to bring about the changes we desire for our lives. It’s a great source to collect the knowledge we seek to change the course of our lives. But is it enough? Well, that’s debatable. Personally, I come from the school of thought that ascribes to the importance of having a mentor or guide we can turn to when information sources collide or begin to impede our progress. The Internet is great, but a mentor can shorten your learning curve and provide valuable insight and encouragement along the way.

A resource is something that can be used to perform a desired function. Think of a resource as the raw material you need to accomplish your objective. It can be that perfect book, the right golf clubs, a specific paintbrush or computer program. And make no mistake, even physical products (like those golf clubs) provide information to our brains that allow us to process the skills required to grow and change. Therefore, information is an absolute essential precursor to change.

The information we consume is just as important as the food we put into our body. It affects the delicate balance of our intellectual, psychological, and emotional well-being. Information also affects our understanding of other people and the choices we make in order to function in this world.

There are two broad reasons we read: entertainment and information.

Entertainment provides a pathway for us to escape into a world of imagination. It is a place that allows us to “let go” and stimulate our innate sense of limitless possibilities as we see things through the lens of our favorite genres. We should all find the time to escape into the world of entertainment. It’s what inspired me to write my first novel. You never know what you’ll find inside this world of limitless imagination.


“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”
~ Albert Einstein


When we read for information we’re looking for solutions. Information sources provide inspiration or instructions. These sources range from simple “How-to’s” to inspirational narratives that can be life-changing. Given a bit of action on your part once you read an information source, you apply what you learn and adjust accordingly. If you’re willing to fail fast, break things, and deal with problems directly, you have what it takes to learn and grow as a result. There’s nothing you cannot do once you have the information you need to surge ahead.




One word of caution when it comes to filling your mind with the things you must know in order to do the things you wish to accomplish. Reading can be addictive. So much so that it can become an escape from the actual doing part. Filling your head with useless information is the opposite of hard-won wisdom and understanding, which can only happen via the application and re-application of the knowledge you acquire through reading and real experiences you encounter. Simply stated, learn what you need to know, then get busy doing what you need to do. There is no substitute for action to implement change.


“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” ~ Tony Robbins


You can’t purposefully change what you’re unaware of. Hence the need for education, experience, and accountability (to both yourself and others). Learning brings about change through awareness. Awareness is the light that illuminates our directed path of intentional change.  

So where is all this going? 

Most people have no idea where the heck their life is going. They’re completely unconscious of where they’re headed. One of the best ways to become conscious is by tracking the use of your time. What is it you’re doing (or not doing) with your time that supports your desire to be, do, or have in life? If time is slipping by with little to no meaningful change in your life then perhaps you should slow down long enough to take note of where you are versus where you desire to be. Then, quite simply, make better use of your time.


“For real change to occur, you must change.” ~ Jim Rohn


Believe it or not, you can actually accelerate your three-to-five-year plan to accomplish the same amount of ground in as little as six to eighteen months…if you slow down long enough to take account of how to make better use of your time. This may seem unrealistic, but I assure you, it is very doable. It’s NOT doable though if you don’t change a few things.

In this day and age, the biggest culprit responsible for stealing our time is social media, followed closely by television. There is no way you’re going to make any meaningful progress toward your hopes, dreams, and aspirations if you’re continually distracted by things that disrupt your intended course of action toward accomplishment. Therefore, use the Internet and social media for an intended purpose and then get off of it as soon as possible. And for goodness sake, use the television a lot more sparingly than you do.


If you learn to truly value your time, you will treat the time you have differently. ~G. Westfal


Here are a few ways to re-shape the perspective you have on the value of time. In order to better value your time, you need…
  • A belief system that clearly defines your intended purpose in life.
  • A thirst for knowledge and wisdom followed by action.
  • A disregard for how (some) others perceive you. Keep in mind that perceptions change. The more successful you become, the better people perceive you. Whether they perceive you favorably or not should never be factored into your plan of action toward change.
  • A goal supported by a fundamental understanding of your purpose in life.
  • A willingness to work hard despite the inevitable difficulties that will arise.
So, are you ready to slow down long enough to figure out the changes you need to make to speed up and accomplish your hopes, dreams, goals, and aspirations? 


Until next time…

~ G ~


“Even the fastest among us have to slow down long enough to navigate the curves.” ~ G. Westfal

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Monday, April 30, 2018

The Two Sides of a Relationship

If you’re like most people, you probably don’t consciously consider whether a relationship is transactional versus transformational. After all, is it really that important to “categorize” relationships? What’s the point?

When it comes to relationships, most of us actually do categorize them according to how they benefit us. This line of thinking, however, is self-centered and can lead to an erosion of the values we assign to the relationships that mean the most to us. The point of it all is to help make you more aware of the differences and to significantly improve the quality and content of the relationships you have in both categories.

Before we get ahead of ourselves, let’s first define the terms so we have a clear understanding of transactional versus transformational.

Transactional relationships are economic and functional. They’re based on the exchange of money, goods, or services. Transactional relationships are focused on getting the most you possibly can in exchange for as little as possible on your part. They are all about you and what you can get, not about what you can give. They tend to serve a fairly clear point. And when the point of a transactional relationship no longer makes sense, the relationship typically ends.

We often initially set up most of our relationships as transactional: you do this for me and I’ll that for you. If you do this to me, then I’ll do that to you.  The tragedy is that we tend to continue to do this even with those whom we are closest - our friends, spouses, children, and family.

Transactional relationships are important in that they serve a purpose and are a means to acquire the things we need or desire in our lives. However, when it comes to creating our deepest and most valued connections, transactional mentalities simply won’t work.


“Most marriages fail because they start out with two people who establish the relationship based on what they have to gain instead of what they have to give.” ~ G. Westfal


Transformational relationships, on the other hand, can begin as transactional (most do), but they go far beyond the exchange of money, goods, or services. Most transformational relationships begin as casual friendships that soon develop into meaningful, selfless relationships.
The very nature of a transformational relationship is deeply rooted in selflessness and a desire to give something to someone else without condition, pretense, or motive. A transformational relationship is all about a clear intent to advance the goals and objectives of other people in a manner that’s based on compassion and love.

Values Matter

Values provide us with a framework for everything from how we raise our families to how we see the world.
Our values help shape the manner in which we interact with others, how we react to situations and circumstances, and whether or not we have a generally positive or pessimistic outlook on life. In other words, what we do and how we see the world defines who we are.  So…who are you? How do you value the relationships you have?

To answer these questions, take a good look at your relationships. Do they fit the transformational mindset or are they transactional? Your relationships are not transformational if they don’t change you, if you’re not growing, or if the benefits are selfishly based.

The Essential Element that Binds Us All

Relationships are a fundamental essential element of life. In other words, the real magic is all about what happens between things—that “space” most of us believe is actually empty between two tangible objects.
We are often quick to consider such space as insignificant when that space is actually one of the most significant aspects of life. It is, after all, the space that connects us to everything.


“A universal truth is that all things—seen and unseen—are connected.”
~ Michael Brown


As a people, we are enamored by what we perceive to be real. Just because we cannot actually “see” something doesn’t mean it isn’t real. As most of us can attest, relationships are indeed very real. Yet, we cannot actually see a relationship. What we see is the result of a relationship. Therefore, the relationship we have with everything (and everyone) is the only reality.

For more insight into this universal truth, check out my latest book, 333 – The Power of Equilibrium. The book is divided into three sections: Body, Mind, and Spirit. In Section Three, author Kirk Hendricks provides a refreshing and insightful perspective on how everything is connected. Consider his explanation only after you have set aside what you think you know in order to make room for what may prove to help you enhance the relationships you already have with…everything.

When relationships are the reality, we value people far more deeply. We see life through a refreshing new lens. We value the meaning we get from relationships because we are more intimate, honest, and caring. As a result, we are far more likely to express gratitude and cherish the people we care about most—the transformational relationships we have created and fostered. 

Until next time…

~ G ~


“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens.” ~ Carl Jung

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Until next time…



~ G ~


“The time you enjoyed wasting is not wasted time.” ~ John Lennon

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Get your copy of Gary's first novel Dream Operative, a #1 Amazon.com Best-Seller! NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com!


FEAR Is a Thief is on Amazon.com and NOW AVAILABLE on Audible.com too! This inspiring book is the first in a self-empowerment series that was written to help people get past fear using five fundamental truths as a basis for understanding and taking action for a better life. Get your copy today at FEAR Is a Thief/Amazon.


Also be sure to check out: KEY HORIZON, the second novel in the G. Weston spy series. This thriller is receiving rave reviews across the spectrum and has captivated a new following of "spy-fi" readers. 




Order your copy of these exciting novels today at Amazon.com.