Saturday, August 31, 2019

3 Ways to Turn Stress Around

Stress, in everyday terms, is a physiological condition brought on by a psychological defense mechanism that is triggered when we become overwhelmed by life’s demands. That’s the textbook definition. Suffice it to say, when you’re stressed, you know it. It’s not fun, by any stretch of the imagination. 

Fortunately, there are several methods for managing stress. One of the best ways to approach stress is to re-frame the way you see it. Most people see stress as “bad” or something to be avoided at all costs. But stress is actually an indicator that tells us when and how to respond to conditions and circumstances that pose a risk to our safety or survival. Framed in this manner, stress can (and should) be seen as “good”. 

So, in the true spirit of re-framing things, consider the following three recommendations to help reduce the stress in your life so you can quickly return to a positive mindset, a healthy outlook, and a purpose-directed lifestyle on the road to your definition of success.

1. Accept the Things You Cannot Change

Everything that has happened in your life to this very minute is on the record, set in stone, and unchangeable. It’s history. The greatest waste of your good energy is looking back at missed opportunities and regretting past events.

Harboring grudges, struggling with unforgiveness, stubbornness, and vengeful thinking do you no good. Your success and goodwill are the only acceptable forms of revenge. Even that statement implies that “revenge” is acceptable. It is not.

By forgiving people—whomever they may be—you set yourself free to concentrate on moving forward with your life and succeeding in spite of the detractors. You get to choose whether or not you will live a rewarding and fulfilling life. Your haters, on the other hand, will forever wonder how you went on to become so successful without them as you leave them in the shadow of their own doubts.

Action: Write down the things that happened in the past that bother you. Then, crumple the paper into a ball and throw it away. This simple exercise symbolizes you letting go of the past. Then…LET-IT-GO.

2. Change the Things You Can Change

You have the power to choose the way you react to what other people say and do. Allow your emotions to predominate and you’ll discover how quickly things spiral out of control. Use logic, insight, and awareness and you’ll notice an immediate difference for the better. When awareness predominates, so too do other positive aspects such as logic, insight, compassion, empathy, and understanding. 

Take control of your thoughts and actions by focusing on your desired results instead of allowing your emotions to take you places you’ll inevitably regret. In personal confrontations, it is always better to pause for a moment until you’ve had an opportunity to consider a reasonable alternative rather than reacting with your (irrational) emotions.

The only real control you have in life is your reaction. The way you gain the upper hand in almost any situation (traffic jams, long lines, relationships, etc.) is with your ability to pause long enough to discover what you don’t already know. 

Action: Write the following words on a piece of paper and place it wherever you are most likely to react with your emotions: “Be Patient.” Use it as a reminder to pause long enough for your emotions to take a back seat to logic, patience, and insight. 

3. Avoid the Unacceptable

Each and every one of us has a demarcation line of intolerance – a personal limit we place upon the things we deem unacceptable. We categorize the things we will not accept and are well aware when we are approaching our own line. Why then do some people knowingly find themselves on the wrong side of that line? 

To answer that, we come full-circle back to the way we typically mismanage our emotions, which tends to obscure our better judgment. Our emotions are so strong they predominate our rational thinking. At the risk of repeating what has already been written, if we could find a way to get ahead of our emotional processing, replacing it instead with rational, logic-based thinking, we would all but enhance our judgment and eliminate most regretful situations. In summary, clarity goes a long way to enhance our ability to keep ourselves out of deteriorating situations. 

Consider the following examples: When people tailgate you on the freeway, change lanes. When there are loud, obnoxious people next to you at a restaurant, change tables or find another restaurant. When you’re around a chronic complainer, find a way to excuse yourself and walk away.

Always be alert for situations that can pose a threat to your health, personal safety, financial risk tolerances, and relationships. Try to be proactive as much as possible.

Action: Focus on one unacceptable vulnerability or habit you have and start avoiding that as much as possible starting right now.

You have the power to effectively manage stress. You’ve had it all along. You just may not have realized just how powerful you are...until now.

Action: Share this with someone who can use the insight. 

Until next time...


- G -

"Give your stress wings, and let it fly off." 
~ G. Westfal



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Thursday, August 1, 2019

You need More Joy (Here's How To Get It)

One moment of joy can change your day. One day of joy can change your life. And one joyous life can change the world. Unfortunately, joy is not something that’s ready-made. It must come from within. Fortunately, you have a choice to allow joy to flow, once you know how. The knowing part is easy. It’s remembering that you actually have a choice that can be a challenge. But with a bit of practice and mindful awareness, the spirit of joy can become a central part of who you are. And when that happens, your entire life will change for the better. 


This week, make happiness a priority by giving yourself permission to experience the positive side of life. Avoid the tendency to criticize, free yourself of any lingering stress or negativity, and take inventory of your emotions to start creating the joyous life you deserve. Here are five quick tips that you can put into practice right now to see immediate results:

1. Filter your world

This week, avoid the negative voices in your head. Surround yourself with books, people, and information that uplift your spirit.

2. Finish things


Take advantage of the spare time you have between meetings and phone calls to work on and complete the things on your to-do list. Finishing things you’ve been putting off can create a satisfactory sense of joy. Choose production over perfection to boost your momentum.

3. Build confidence

Confidence is like a muscle—you build it through consistent action. The next time you’re afraid of doing something, count down from five and just do it.

4. Health check 

Take time to ensure you’re doing something every day for your physical, emotional, and spiritual health. Take a walk, read something educational, meditate or spend some quiet time listening to the sounds of nature. Breathe deep and relax. Balance is the key to true happiness. 

5. Practice self-care

The next time your anger gets the best of you, be quick to recognize it, learn from it, and move on. Stop beating yourself up over your mistakes. We all make them. The key is to learn from them and continue to improve. 

Life offers unlimited opportunities to be happy. All it takes is awareness and a willingness to unwrap the gifts that surround us at any given moment. Where will you find your joy?

What are some of the ways you can think of to increase your joy? I’d love to hear about it. Leave a comment if you enjoyed this article. If you can think of someone who would benefit from reading this post, please pass it on. 
Until next time...


- G -

"If you're searching for that one person who will change your life, look in the mirror."


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Saturday, June 29, 2019

How to Get Things Done Like the Pros You Admire

There you are, you’re ready to accomplish that long, sought-after goal but you can’t seem to find the time. Motivation can be a tricky thing, especially when it’s complicated by the sheer amount of distractions coming our way from every conceivable angle at any given moment. How on earth can you ever expect to get your “normal” obligations accomplished, let alone find the time to actually accomplish an extraordinary goal or two you have on your list? After all, there are other people out there “doing it”. Why can’t you?

As for motivation, it is fleeting. We generally understand that it either flows from within or is externally-driven. Either way, it is typically powered by the strength of our vision or the urgency of a situation. 

Suffice it to say, you can have all the motivation you need, but if you give in to distractions, you will eventually become frustrated (and consumed) by the devastating impact of distractions. In other words, distractions can kill motivation. 

So, if it is up to us to keep distractions to a minimum to fuel the motivation we need, what are we to do? How do we find the motivation we need to overcome the urge to give in to distractions that invariably rob us from accomplishing our goals?  For answers, I have come up with three tips that will put things into perspective. As a bonus, I have reached out to two highly-accomplished people I know and trust to gather their perspective. Use their advice in tandem with the tips below and you’ll be plugged into the most powerful source for getting things accomplished—your own motivation!


Attach a Reason to the Task


Nothing is more powerful than the reason you attach to your goals and aspirations. Some call it your “why”. Your reason is the engine to your vision or desire for achievement. Your reason must be compelling enough to fuel the motivation you need to have to consistently accomplish the tasks in spite of the inevitable distractions. 

Being motivated about a task doesn’t always mean you’re happy about doing it. It simply means you have the “power” to put distractions at bay and follow through to completion—consistently—to create momentum. Your accomplishments will inevitably lead to satisfaction and happiness, both of which have a sustaining effect on your ability to tap into your determination to repeat the process. 

Prioritize, Then Take Action


Taking a step back can provide some much-needed perspective on your goals. It can also overwhelm you. So, it’s wise to approach the accomplishment process realistically. The best way is to break the overall process down into bite-sized tasks, and then, prioritize. 

Once you prioritize your tasks, take consistent action (notice a developing trend?) to produce results you can sink your teeth into. Once you begin seeing evidence of your results, you’ll find that your motivation is a lot easier to tap into to continue producing even more results. 

Use the 15-Minute Rule


Finding time to accomplish a task, even if it’s routine, can sometimes be an arduous undertaking, especially if you look at the entirety of your desired goal. But if you can “break up” a task into manageable segments that can be accomplished in, say, fifteen-minute increments, then finding time should be less of an issue. 

Consistency is the number one fundamental aspect of accomplishment. Without it, achievement is nearly impossible. To produce the consistency—and motivation—required to accomplish your goals and objectives, you must do something related to your goal every-single-day. 

You see, our brains are wired in such a way as to form close associations, or familiarity, with what we do consistently. It only makes sense that, the more you do something, the better you become at doing that very thing. The amount of time you spend on a task in a given session is less important than the frequency with which you connect to the task. In other words, even a mere fifteen minutes every day matters more than an eight-hour day once a month. 

So, as you approach your next extraordinary goal, take the time to consider these tips along with those of my friends and colleagues below. You’ll be glad you did. And you’ll have a lot greater success in tapping into your own internal motivation source.

Perspectives













Colleen Riddle
Author, CPFT, and Young Living Gold Distributor

Did you know that YOU are actually in charge of your attitude every day? Some days when I'm in a funk, or grumpy, I remind myself that I have the power to shift my energy and attitude at any time. I just have to decide. 

One great way to shift is by beginning the day with rituals. Things we do every morning actually set the tone for the way the rest of the day will likely go. So, I thought I’d share a few of the daily rituals that help prepare me for my day.

1.     Gratitude: Before I get out of bed, I think of ten things I am grateful for—from the warm cozy bed to the roof over my head and everything in between. Sounds simple, but simplicity can actually be quite profound.

2.    Personal Development/Meditation: I notice a huge difference in my attitude when I take the time to read or meditate. If you aren't a reader, there are great books you can listen to on audible. I love listening to books while I'm driving. Podcasts are another great option. One of my favorite ones is "The Quote of the Day." Most are no longer than ten minutes long and are a perfect way to program my outlook for the day.


3.     Practice Visualization: Visualization is huge for me because it reminds me of my "why," and motivates me to kick ass because I'm on a mission! You can even break it down and decide how you want your day to go by visualizing the things you’ll get accomplished. Have an important meeting? Visualize the way you want it to go! Seriously, this works. Give it a shot! 














Kirk Hendricks
Author, Advisor, and Awareness Advocate


I consider time as a construct of the human mind. There is only as much time as we create for ourselves to accomplish a task…or attain our goals, as some would say. This is why people find time to get as much done as they want, while others cannot find the time to do much of anything constructive. It is a truth that time is a concept of our conscious experience, and each of us has the power to create or destroy it, whichever we choose.

I personally, choose to wake up on the weekends a couple of hours before my family. It is my time to freely choose to do whatever I want, which I do. I also get up at 4:30 am every weekday to work out and meditate in order to begin each day on a positive note, which I also freely choose to do. I also take the time to observe, as in the manner in which I observe the moments I put into this text before I sat down to write my thoughts so that it flowed more easily when the opportunity arose. And yes, I chose to do that too.

There are those who embrace conventional wisdom concerning the concept of time, which certainly has its place when considering how you can leverage it to your best advantage. I believe that, once you find the time, you will appreciate both perspectives.

Until next time...


- G -

"I consider time as a construct of the human mind. Therefore, you have inherent power over it." 
~ Kirk Hendricks


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Also be sure to check out: KEY HORIZON, the second novel in the G. Weston spy series. This thriller is receiving rave reviews across the spectrum and has captivated a new following of "spy-fi" readers. 


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