Thursday, February 28, 2019

Three Easy Ways to Achieve Anything You Desire

Have you ever wanted something so bad you just wish there was an easy way to get? Why does there always seem to be a "price" to pay? Taking the easy way out is rarely the best option. Although some people adopt that mindset and actually believe it will suit them long-term. 

Taking the easy way out today almost always leads to a hard life later. Successful-minded people know to do whatever it takes today in order to achieve a better life later. The easy way out is typically a path fraught with obstacles, delay, and regret that disguises itself as a shiny object of immediate gratification. But what if we changed that mindset ever so slightly to think of it in terms that what first appears to be difficult is actually the easy way, or at least the better way?

Sacrifice now to enjoy life later. What’s the risk? Well, the only risk is that you die trying. But you already know that, while you may sometimes feel like dying, your sacrifice is rarely, if ever, a life-or-death dilemma. In fact, things only seem difficult right now. They only seem hard. But I can assure you, while you are willing to do a difficult task today for a better, brighter tomorrow, most everyone else will appear as if they have it much better than you…today. Check back with these same people in five or ten years (yes, you must sacrifice for a time) and you will discover they are the ones with a difficult life. They are the ones who are stuck in the same job trying to put on the same show. They are the ones with little to no savings, still spending "as if" they have it all. The tides of change are always in motion. And to those who are willing to learn to navigate those tides, they will be ones to whom everyone will eventually look to for guidance. 

So, if you’re looking for an edge that will give you the leverage it takes to achieve your goals, then there are three things you must know before you can turn things around. Consider adopting these easy choices and you'll be on your way to achieving anything you desire.

1. Establish a clear and compelling reason why. 


The old adage “Where there is a will, there is a way” applies here. No, I’m not talking about willpower. I’m talking about WHY power! Willpower gets you started. Discipline and determination keep you going. You won’t always be motivated. Discipline is the secret sauce that carries you through when inspiration and motivation subsides. Determination compels you to find a way through inevitable obstacles. Discipline and determination both rest upon your compelling reason WHY. Develop a compelling WHY and nothing can stop you.

2. Establish a clear path (goal). 


Your WHY drives the need for you to achieve. But, a compelling reason alone is not enough. You need a plan. You need a GOAL. A goal is your declaration of a desired outcome. Goals offer a pathway to a better life through the influential emotion of hope. And hope is one of the strongest emotions we have that drives the determination, fortitude, and tenacity required to accomplish the aspirations we have for a better life.

3. Establish a crystal clear vision of the results. 

A clear vision or image of your desired results paints a compelling picture that connects with the power of your imagination. One of the most amazing traits we have as humans is an innate desire to aspire to or dream of a better life. We have abilities to conceive, visualize, and dwell upon the limitless possibilities that are available to us to ignite the forces of change. It’s what drives us to improve, adapt, and survive. Tap into this power for a change you can count on. You can absolutely do this!

You have a choice. 


The choice is yours. You can suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of disappointment. Sacrifice is the watchword. You will sacrifice either way you slice it. On one hand, your sacrifice will shape you, train you, change you, and prepare you for a better life through discipline. On the other hand, your sacrifice will be one you will be stuck with (later) unless or until you decide to change it. But most won’t because a predominant emotion of regret and disappointment will pervade. Don’t let that be you. I say it all the time - things are never what they first appear to be. What initially appears to be a tough road filled with tough choices eventually reveals itself as the right road - one leading to the fruits of your labor and the achievement of your dreams and goals.

Want to know how to tap into the power of true wealth? Drop me a line and let's talk about it. If you're ready to make small sacrifices today, I can show you how this is truly the easier way of doing things. 



Until next time…


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“If you want something you've never had, you must be willing to do something you've never done.” 
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Friday, February 1, 2019

The Courage to Try

When you follow your convictions, people notice.  Things change. You change. Your path becomes clearer and your course begins to take shape.  As that happens, the seeds of your vision take hold and become rooted in those very convictions.  The decision to take the first step demonstrates your courage and is driven by the belief you have in yourself, your ideas, and your motivations.  The result is a personal transformation manifested by the courage to follow through and pursue your dreams. Don’t ever ignore that! 


In the previous edition of Introspection, I outlined five of the top ten limiting stories we tell ourselves. Each of these stories paints a narrative that puts us at a disadvantage and has the potential to outright derail any hope of achieving anything significant. I stressed how you don’t have to buy into any of that nonsense. In fact, that narrative robs you of the courage you need to step past negative self-talk and into action mode to make a clear difference in your life and the lives of those you care about most. 

I received some pretty interesting comments on that blog that have brought us back to take a closer look at the remaining five most used limiting narratives we tell ourselves. As we look at each of these together, I’d like you to think about an alternate perspective we are able to cast as we contrast the negative narrative with a more positive and empowering one.

Let’s get to it…

6. “I’m too old. The course of my life is destined to be what it is.”

This is one of the "oldest" excuse lines in the book. It is most commonly used when someone just does not want to take action to change their lot in life. Taking a closer look tells us that the age excuse is a sign of exasperation. You are never too old for positive change to take place in your life.  In fact, you have more of an advantage than you may realize. For example, age is more widely seen as an advantage where wisdom, knowledge, and experience are required. Wisdom arms us with the knowledge to ask for help when we need it, clarification when required, and courage to remain true to the convictions we hold dear. 

7. “I don’t have the talent or skills. Even if I try, I’ll probably fail.”

One of my dreams was to be a published writer.  I spent nearly three years writing my first manuscript.  I didn’t have any special talent or expertise, but I knew I wanted to be a writer so bad that I would do whatever it took to become just that. The candid truth is that we all start out with a clean slate. It’s true that some are more inclined to accelerate in a given skill more than others. But if you possess the will, you also possess the power to develop virtually any skill you set your intentions upon. The truest part of this specific limiting statement is that, yes, you will probably fail. In fact, you will most likely fail several times…before you ultimately succeed. But with each successive failure, you learn and develop your talents and skills to become the person you desire and to achieve the goals you set. 

8. “I’m not smart (talented, brave, handsome, pretty, or worthy…).”

The two most powerful words in the English language are “I am”. These two words, preceded by whatever follows them, defines you. The placement of the three-letter word “not” between the first two words and whatever follows has a destructive power so great it can destroy nations. This limiting phrase puts the wrong focus on what you are not rather than what you are capable of becoming. It also speaks to deficient self-esteem most likely derived by the fact that you have not yet stepped away from the shadow of comfort and familiarity. Change only comes when you demonstrate the courage to take action. Only then will your limiting self-talk transform from one of disadvantage to one supported by the inspiring notion of “I am.” 

9. “It takes money to make money. And I don’t have that kind of money.”

This false narrative implies insufficiency and lack from the start. It is backed by an even stronger declaration of “I don’t have…”. Let us first clarify the belief that “it takes money to make money”. This assertion is only partially true. If you have money you can indeed use that money to make more money. The sad truth is, most people don’t. The next truth is that you most likely have enough money right now to leverage it to start working for you to make even more money—the principles of which would require a completely different blog post and, most likely, an entire book to fully exploit. Let us give this limiting statement some credence on its merits with a caveat that removes the limitation. If it is true that it takes money to make money, then find a way to make enough extra money to put it to work. Or go out and find someone with money and bring your insight to help them make money. Chances are, you’ll win their confidence and begin making money for both of you. Then you will virtually eliminate the second part of this limiting statement because you will indeed “have that kind of money.” By the way, it doesn't take money to make money. It takes courage! Just ask the immigrant who arrived in this country with nothing but a dream and a pocket full of courage. 

10. “I can’t change because I always seem to find a way to mess things up.”

Our declarations define us. It is a universal law of nature that tells us to be careful what we ask, because we just may get it. If the above narrative comes anywhere close to the way you think, it's time to recalibrate your internal programming. Be courageous enough to recognize it, acknowledge it, and take a stand against it…right now! The fact is, you can change and you will change. Isn’t it better to change in the direction of your desires rather than to allow life to sweep you up in the current? Look, you will “mess up” from time to time. (Go back and read point number seven on failure.) Messing up should always be considered from the perspective of the value it provides—an indication that we are learning, growing, and changing. 

Ready to remove the limiting stories from your life? Need help doing that? Reach out to me. Leave a comment or connect with me. I can help you see things from a perspective of courage and empowerment that will help you discover your hidden strengths. Let’s find your personal breakthrough so you can operate with confidence in the lane of your intended purpose. 


Until next time…


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“You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.” 
Cayla Mills


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Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Ten (Limiting) Stories We Tell Ourselves

1. I never succeed at anything.
2. It’s just the way I was raised.
3. I’m not happy because life isn’t fair.
4. I don’t ever make the right decisions in life.
5. I'm damaged goods; I've been through so much!
6. I’m too old. The course of my life is destined to be what it is.
7. I don’t have the talent or skills. Even if I try, I'll probably fail.
8. I'm not smart (talented, brave, handsome, pretty, or worthy…) 
9. It takes money to make money. And I don’t have that kind of money.
10. I can't change because it seems I always find a way to mess things up.

You don’t have to buy into the limiting stories you’ve been telling yourself. They may seem like facts, but they are actually just circumstances that have developed to support the narrative of your self-professed story. When you change the narrative of your story, an amazing thing begins to happen – you begin to change the very course of your life. And the circumstances have no choice but to follow the new narrative. 

As your circumstances change, so too does your perspective.  Your perspective drives your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. When your perspective changes, you develop a fresh new outlook that opens the door to all kinds of goodness to flow into your life. 

You have the power to release your stories whenever you decide you’re tired of believing them. You have the power to rewrite them at will. All you have to do is draw a line in the sand and start writing the narrative you desire and know you deserve.

Let’s devote a thought or two to just a couple of these limiting beliefs. As we do, I think you’ll begin to see two things emerge: 1. You are the author of your story and, 2. you have the power to edit that story any time you wish. 

1.  “I never succeed at anything.”

This statement reflects a closed mind that has accepted defeat. Success is defined as the slow and steady progress toward a worthy goal. It is not defined as the surface trappings of life we typically see in social media every day. Take a good look at all areas of your life and acknowledge the progress you are making. It’s there if you look for it. When you find it, you’ll see you are indeed succeeding at something. Claim that success and own it! Then, simply change the narrative of your story from “I never…” to “I am…”


2.  “It’s just the way I was raised.”

You are an individual capable of writing your own story. It’s true your family handbook was a strong influence in creating your fundamental beliefs, but there comes a time when you must carefully select what you wish to adopt from that influential source to develop your own story. Don’t ever think you must use this limiting statement to justify who you truly are. Listen closely and you will hear your own calling. Use what you hear as a brand-new foundation to write your own empowering story.


3.  “I’m not happy because life isn’t fair.”

As an author, I can tell you that the manner in which you frame a sentence or statement matters. Consider the above sentence in its current state. The sentiment is one of discontent and defeat. With a simple rearrangement of the words, we can change the entire dynamic to one that reflects the real truth. “Life isn’t fair, so I’m not happy.” Once we see the truth of the matter, we gain power over it and can actually do something about it. Guess what? Life isn’t fair. So, now that we know the truth, we gain insight into knowing our happiness should never be tied to the fact that life isn’t fair. 

4.  “I don’t ever make the right decisions in life.” 

This is a statement of absolution that is likely more reflective of a lack of self-confidence than a statement of fact. In other words, it’s an excuse and an exaggeration. Decision-making is part of our everyday lives that has consequences. Make the wrong dietary choice and you could gain too much weight, get sick, or even worse. Drive your car through a red traffic signal and it could have catastrophic consequences. If this kind of statement is part of your narrative, I would point out that you are likely not focusing on the right decisions you are making. Build your new narrative on the good choices you’re making and more of the same will follow. 

5.  “I’m damaged goods. I’ve been through so much.”

No one on this earth knows what you’ve been through in life quite like you. Your circumstances are unique and have no doubt shaped your beliefs and values. Therein lies the limit of your situation, however. To be clear, you are not alone in having “been through so much” in life. The difference between those who lean on this belief and those who don’t is quite amazing actually. There are two mindsets at play here. While one side embraces difficult circumstance as a Scarlett Letter they must bear because of the past, the other side refuses to accept the narrative in spite of past circumstance. You have a choice. You always have a choice. Just because someone rejected you or something went wrong in your life, does not mean you must edit your story to a self-deprecating narrative. Trust me, there is much more goodness in store for you if you will just believe that you deserve it. 

Interested in taking a deeper look at the next five on the list? Let me know by leaving a comment or reaching out to me directly. 



Until next time…


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“Stories are the shortest distance between us and truth. So, when we understand and uncover these stories, we gain the opportunity to understand maybe we need a new story.” 
Chris Cade


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"Keep producing things, great or small, and you will find that your 
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***********
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Get your copy today at FEAR Is a Thief/Amazon.

Also be sure to check out: KEY HORIZON, the second novel in the G. Weston spy series. This thriller is receiving rave reviews across the spectrum and has captivated a new following of "spy-fi" readers. 




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